Entitled White Men On LinkedIn: Your Generational Misogyny is Showing





Dear Entitled White Men,

For hundreds of years, you have been able to say whatever you want, whenever you want. No one has challenged you, so much so that you don't even notice how differently you treat women online than you treat men. It's not your fault that you live so deep in the patriarchy that you can't even see your misogyny and the different tone you take with women who assert power.

This article was inspired by my post from Thursday 2/17. But is more an observation of how white men have treated me on LinkedIn since I started becoming more vocal about my opinions. Thursday, I posted that email is dead and said that people who are still using it as their primary communications tool might be dinosaurs.


Guess who was offended by this post? Guess who decided to defend themselves against this accusation that they might be dinosaurs? White men. Particularly Gen X white men; exactly who I was talking to in my post! These are the same men who will dislike this post and think that I am generalizing when I say "white men." If you're doing the work, you will know this isn't about you. If your first reaction is to defend yourself, this letter is to you.


Ever since I started putting my opinion out on social media, I have been met with two types of response; "You're so brave for saying what you think, I admire you," and "Stay in your place, woman." Both are the tracks of my inner monologue, so it's fitting that it plays out here. Most of the former are women. And, all of the latter are white men. I will no longer be put in my place by gaslighting comments. I will continue to call out the misogyny that burns deep. Each time I post "angrily" on LinkedIn, white men come out of the woodwork to tell me how unbecoming I am. I am not here to be told how to message myself. I did that for way too long.


You see, I used to live in a world where I tried to get people to like me, for a living. I was aways hired to be that counselor and challenger. But, when I tried to challenge, I was always quieted, feared or told to tow the line to keep the business. So instead of challenging, I started changing. I tried to change and edit myself in order to be more likable. This happened in my personal life, in my professional life and it made me think I was happy. I had a great life, I didn't have to be a challenger. I didn't have to try to see the future and predict behavior. I could just coast.


Next, I fell asleep for about 5 years. Cannabis woke me up. And, now, I am not going back to sleep until I die.


So, when I put my opinions about the future of cannabis, tech or marketing out on LinkedIn, I am not trying to soft-peddle or message myself with nuance to make comfortable the people whose reality I challenge.


I spent 20 years in the slow lane of Corporate America. And, now I can see how far behind we really were. So, now that I am an entrepreneur and get to work only with people who are like-minded and open-minded, I get to say what I think on social media. I spent my life editing everything I said, and teaching my clients to edit and message everything they said. We built personas and brands, we said just enough to be likable without upsetting anyone.


And, now, I am going to be 100% real, 100% of the time. If you don't like it, I appreciate debate. But, please, white men, don't tell me that I need to change. Don't try and quiet me. Don't tell me to get back in line, to smile pretty and keep my opinions to myself.


I am here to be bold, to say what I think and stand-up for new ways of doing business. If you don't like what you read or see, there is an unfollow button. If you do, I have an app.


Have a Nice Weekend.


Lauren


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